What do Sex dreams mean?
Since
sex is so prevalent in our society, not to mention necessary for our
survival as a species, it is no wonder that we dream of having sex. As
with any dream symbol, what sex means to you in your dream will depend
on your feelings about sex and your experience as a sexual being.
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In many cases, dreaming
of sex isn’t really about sex. From a psychological perspective, dreams
about having sex may symbolize the merging of contrasting aspects of
yourself or a need to incorporate aspects of your dream sex partner into
yourself. Consider your dream partner and what it is that you admire
or love about them for an idea of what you are trying to merge into
yourself.
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In some instances it may
be a safe way to release pent up or repressed sexual desire; you may be
exploring your own needs and desires; or it may be compensating for a
lack of having a physical relationship in waking life. It may also be
suggestive of a need for emotional love or desire to be loved and
wanted.
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Dreaming of sex with
someone other than your spouse or significant other or with a fantasy
lover may be wish fulfillment. Alternately, if you spend a lot of time
having or thinking about sex in waking life, it may be a continuation of
your waking life thoughts and actions.
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Sleeping with your ex may
be an indication that you are coming to terms with and accepting the
end of the relationship; or that you have learned from the experience
and you are incorporating what you learned into yourself. Your ex may
also be representing a new relationship, perhaps as a warning that you
don’t want to repeat the same mistakes. If you are still in love with
your ex, then dreams about having sex with your ex may be wish
fulfillment.
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To have sex with a
stranger may symbolize a new you that is emerging due to changes you are
going through. The stranger may also indicate you are open to a change
or a new opportunity that is underway.
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If you are a
heterosexual, having sex with a same-sex partner does not mean you are
homosexual or that you have homosexual desires. Instead it is usually an
indication you are learning to love and accept yourself as you are, or
you are merging or incorporating aspects of your dream partner into
yourself.
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The sexual act itself
will also provide more insight as to the meaning of the dream. Search
the dream dictionary for the specific sexual act for further analysis of
your sex dreams. A standard missionary position may symbolize being
bored or dissatisfied with your sex life, or your life in general. If
you are doing or seeing something that you haven’t or wouldn’t do in
waking life, the dream may be providing the opportunity to safely
experience it.
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To dream of a
sado-masochistic act or acts may be an indication that you are hurting
yourself, hurting others or are allowing others to hurt you in some
aspect of waking life that doesn’t necessarily have to relate to sex.
You may be treating yourself badly or neglecting your health in waking
life. It may also symbolize an emotionally or physically abusive
relationship.
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Searching for a place to
have intercourse may reflect your search for love in waking life or your
desire for a more intimate physical or emotional relationship. Having
sex in public may be an indication that you may regret revealing too
much of yourself to others.
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To dream of having
unprotected sex may be symbolizing your fear of getting pregnant. You
may also be feeling unsafe or threatened in waking life.
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If you are unable to
complete the sexual act then it may be suggestive of having an
unsatisfactory waking sex life or an inability to express yourself or
communicate with your waking life partner; or it may be that there are
opposing aspects of yourself that you are unable or unwilling to accept.
It may also indicate an inability to complete something else in waking
life. You may be feeling impotent, unfulfilled or ineffective in some
aspect of waking life.
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If you are watching
others have sex, or watching a pornographic movie, you may be feeling
insecure about your own sexuality. Watching others may be a way to
safely learn about different sexual acts and/or explore your own sexual
needs and desires. It may also be suggestive of a need for emotional
love or desire to be loved and wanted.
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Watching porn may
symbolize boredom and a need for stimulation in other aspects of waking
life; or it may be compensating for a lack of sexual activity in waking
life; or may be filling a desire to watch it in waking life.
Alternately, if you spend a lot of time watching or looking at porno in
waking life, it may be a continuation of your waking life thoughts and
actions.
Consider
these common idioms related to or referring to sex that may or may not
make sense in the context of your dream. You may think of others which
can help you determine what your sexual dreams mean to you.
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• A sex object (seen only as someone to have sex with and not for their character or personality).
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• Better than sex (extremely satisfying or enjoyable).
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• The battle of the sexes (the disagreements that exist between men and women because of their differences).
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• Who am I having sex with?
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• Am I emotionally engaged with my dream partner or is it just physical?
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• What sexual act am I performing or seeing?
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• Am I enjoying it?
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• Is it passionate or do I find it to be dull and unexciting?
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• Is it fast or slow?
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• What parts of the body are involved?
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• Who is doing what to whom?
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• Where is the act being performed?
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• Is it something that I do or would consider doing in waking life? If not, why not?
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• Who initiated the sex?